On Monday, while visiting teaching Heather, I got a phone call. I didn't answer because I didn't recognize the number and was more concerned about my visit with Heather and Lisa. Then, Heather's home phone rang. It was Peggy (my mother-in-law).
"Jenny? Lindsey's water broke."
I immediately left and called Lindsey. Sure enough, she was in the hospital and waiting for me to come up.
I drove up to the hospital and hung out with Lindsey and her mom. There, we waited, and waited. We played Pictionary, talked, tried to sleep. We ate a little, laughed, and I finished a blanket (that I was giving to her) right in front of her. Yeah. She was a week early...so, I didn't get things done on time (thank you Hailey for helping me). People came and visited.
Then, contractions. She had been having them before, but now, they were the real deal and hurting. It was interesting being in the room with her. Over the past few months my love for her has grown so much, and it was painful for me to see her in pain. She was champ though. Seriously. A champ.
29 hours after labor, and 22 hours after ACTIVE labor, Micah was born.
I can't explain how incredible it was to be in that room with her. First of all, I was completely touched that she wanted me to be there with her and her mom. Her grandma came as well, and so it was this team of women...a room full of so much love. I was honored to be among this small circle. In fact, I told Lindsey that I think I was more emotional than she was! Yes, she was working hard and was focusing on getting the job done (which she had been hoping, I'm sure, had happened 15 hours before). But seeing her work so hard to bring this little life into the world, and knowing what that meant for our family...I was so overwhelmed. Often Cindy (Lindsey's mom) would lovingly look over to me as I just cried. Those moments are priceless to me. I wish I had the words to explain this all. Birth is a miracle. Lindsey is a miracle.
After Micah was born, we stayed in Lindsey's room. He was weighed, cleaned up, and I was able to hold him skin to skin....all 9 lbs 4 oz of him! He had a slight fever and had a bit of trouble getting the fluid out of his lungs, but he was fine.
It was a little while before everything was cleaned up and ready before the men-folk were able to come back in. Marcus had to wait a good 20 minutes before he was allowed in, along with Lindsey's grandpa and father.
I held him. Marcus held him. Lindsey, her mom, and her grandma held him. There was so much love in that room all because of this one little man.
oooo look at that little tongue |
First picture of Mommy, Daddy, and Micah (Remember...about 30 hours without a shower and real sleep) |
I instantly fell in love with him. I credit that all to Lindsey. With adoption, sometimes the adoptive family misses out on some of the bonding time. I didn't carry him for 9 months and feel him move. There's just a lot that the adoptive family "misses" out on. And when Callie was born, I was prepared by others that it could take some time to bond, that the mother/daughter bond may not be immediate. I immediately fell in love with her, but it did take me a couple weeks before I felt like she was my daughter. And the moment when I felt that connection with her was a spiritual one. I remember exactly where I was sitting, the time of day, and the feeling I had.
When Micah was born, that feeling came the day he was born. Once Lindsey knew we were her family, she let us into her heart and his life. She allowed us to experience it all with her, the best she could anyway. Being in that room with her during the labor and delivery, I know I wasn't doing the work, but I felt a part of it. I felt like all those adoptions in the past couple years that have fallen through were because we were waiting for him. It just all felt perfect. He's perfect.
Going home |
Since he's been home, we have loved holding him, cuddling him, feeding him, just being with him. He's such a blessing...such a joy. There's a peace that all newborns carry with them. They are fresh and new. Pure and clean. He has slowed down our lives and brought a spirit of love and joy into our home in more abundance. We look forward to the days ahead and for the years ahead with Lindsey and her family. This little man is surrounded by so much love. There are so many people who have been praying for him and loving him before he even made his earthly debut.
Welcome Micah.
We love you.
26 comments:
I'll admit it - I bawled as I read this post. I am so happy for you and your family. I know how long you have waited for this miracle and I cannot think of anyone who deserves it more. Congratulations on the birth of Micah!
How wonderful! That is so neat that you got to be there for the labor and birth. What a special time! Congrats on your sweet little boy:)
Congratulations!!! Such a beautiful story and blessing!!!
Oh, Jenny! I'm crying like a baby. I am SO SO HAPPY for you, Marcus, and the girls. Micah is an absolute doll! Lindsey and her family are clearly special--what a perfect match. And what a perfect birthday. Little Micah is lucky to be surrounded by so much love. :) XOXO
What a beautiful story! I am so, so happy for you guys. Micah is lucky to have so many people who love him so much. Congratulations!!
How incredible!!!! I'm so happy for your family and Lindsay. Congratulations! Little Micah will be so loved!
What an exciting time for your family. What a wonderful story and such great pictures. Congratulations!
I am so happy for you. What a sweet story.
such a beautiful story! what a wonderful time in all of your lives! i'm so happy for you guys! congrats greens and welcome to the world li'l micah! :)
Beautiful story and pictures! I think you look beautiful in the first picture of you and Marcus and Micah because you are so happy! Congratulations!
We are so happy for you. Thank you for sharing your family's story. What a tender mercy, indeed! :)
We love you guys!!! Micah is so handsome! We can't wait to meet him!
How sad for the birth mother...
that is so great that you got to be there for all the labor! What an awesome birth mom and what great parents you guys will be for him! He is so cute! congratulations!!! Too bad we don't live closer our little guys could be great friends!
AMAZING. What a blessing for everything involved! Congratulations!
Your son is so handsome and you all look great and happy! Welcome to the world Micah--you couldn't have picked a better family :)
I am reading this at work and doing everything I can to keep from crying. I am so happy for you and for this child and for his mother. I've probably mentioned before that my own sister is adopted and my lil sis is probably going to have to go through adoption to have children, so this is all just so close to home for me. Love you! CONGRATULATIONS!
Jenny, my heart is full! My eyes are full of tears too :) I am so happy Micah has joined your family. I'n so grateful for beautiful, wonderful, selfless birth moms like Lindsay.
Congratulations!
I waited to read this post because I knew I wanted to give it my undivided attention and read every word. And I'm so glad I did. There are tears in my eyes. I'm so happy for you all and so happy you found Lindsay.
Jenny! I am so happy for you! what an amazing experience! God bless you and that darling family of yours!
Jenny and Marcus! Congratulations on the homecoming of your precious son Micah. Yay! He is beautiful. Can't wait to meet him! What a sweetheart he is.
Thank you to dear Lindsey for this blessing to our family.
our love to you all,
Jan and family
Congratulations! He is adorable! Can't wait to hear the rest of the story.
Congratulations Jenny and Marcus! We were so thrilled to see the pics first and this post... what a sweet little baby! We are so happy for you and your family. What a neat story and it sounds like his birthmom is a pretty special person as well. Again, congratulations!
Congratulations to your family. What a neat story and a great blessing for your family.
OH what a tender miracle! I'm am moved to tears by his sweet story- thank you for sharing something so special. I love you!
(This is Amelia Low's Big sis) I am so excited for your family! I have read up on you through the years and feel a part of your life and struggles, even though I hardly know you. I am so excited that this perfect little man is in your perfect little family. He is a doll. Wishing you all the best.
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